Empowerment Over Diminishment: 10 Ways Leaders Can Lift Self-Esteem
Psychology Today, among other reports, asserts that a staggering 85% of the global population grapples with low self-esteem — a statistic that’s both alarming and unacceptable. Low self-esteem isn’t just a personal issue; it’s a societal epidemic with severe consequences, including sadness, depression, anxiety, and more.
One of the primary contributors to this epidemic is the influence of disapproving authority figures, alongside preoccupied caregivers and bullying. In this discussion, let’s narrow our focus to the impact we, as leaders and authority figures, have on this issue.
Having led teams for over 31 years, I recognize the profound responsibility that comes with leadership. I’ve undoubtedly said or done things that diminished someone’s sense of self-worth, and acknowledging this is essential. As leaders, we significantly influence the self-esteem of those we lead, and it’s incumbent upon us to play a pivotal role in changing this narrative.
We often encounter individuals at a critical juncture in their development — at ages 16 to 18. By fostering a culture of privilege and empowerment early on, we can counteract the damaging effects of earlier experiences.
Here are ten actionable steps to help build and bolster people’s self-esteem while mitigating actions that diminish it:
Flip the Pyramid:
Recognize that you work for those you lead, not the other way around. Without them, your role loses its purpose and relevance. By prioritizing their needs and well-being, you create a culture of mutual respect and appreciation, where everyone feels valued and empowered. You are employed because you have people to lead, without them you are unnecessary.
2. Catch people doing things right:
Instead of fixating on flaws, intentionally highlight strengths and achievements. Celebrate successes, no matter how small, and provide meaningful recognition for individual contributions. This fosters a positive environment where individuals feel acknowledged and motivated to excel. When you look for what people are doing right first, you won’t run out of time and can actually share it with them.
3. Stop taking yourself too seriously:
Maintain humility and acknowledge the talent and value in others. Recognize that someone else may be equally right or talented as you are. By letting go of negative ego-driven behaviors and embracing a collaborative mindset, you create space for collective growth and success. Walk with a strut while teaching others to as well.
4. Observe with your eyes and ears:
Be fully present, actively listen, and provide meaningful feedback. Pay attention not only to what is said but also to non-verbal cues and underlying emotions. By demonstrating genuine interest and understanding, you foster trust and open communication channels. Get off your phones and out of the backrooms.
5. Assume positive intent:
Approach interactions with trust and assume the best rather than the worst. Give others the benefit of the doubt and resist jumping to conclusions. By cultivating an environment of trust and goodwill, you encourage open dialogue and collaboration. “How did the difficult conversation with Susie go this morning” is received so much better than, “Did you have the difficult conversation with Susie this morning?
6. Intentionally encourage mistakes:
Create a safe space for learning and growth by embracing and learning from errors. Encourage experimentation and risk-taking, recognizing that failure is an essential part of the learning process. By reframing mistakes as opportunities for growth, you promote resilience and innovation. Reward mistakes and be present to see the them so you can give feedback on how to avoid them in the future.
7. Be a role model:
One of the main reasons people don’t achieve their goals is due to a lack of positive role models.Lead by example and embody the qualities you wish to inspire in others. Demonstrate integrity, empathy, and accountability in your actions, setting a high standard for behavior. By modeling positive behaviors, you inspire others to emulate your example and strive for excellence.
8. Respect people’s DNA:
Acknowledge and honor individuals’ intrinsic qualities and characteristics. Recognize that each person brings a unique perspective and set of strengths to the table. By embracing diversity and inclusivity, you create a rich tapestry of talent and experiences within your team. When you insult someones intrinsic characteristics they become defensive and won’t hear a thing you are saying.
9. Communication is in the ears of the receiver:
Ensure your message is received and understood by actively assessing feedback and responses. Tailor your communication style to the needs and preferences of your audience, fostering clarity and understanding. By practicing effective communication, you minimize misunderstandings and promote collaboration. Don’t just get it off your chest. Just because you said something outloud does mean it was listened to or even heard.
10. Harness the power of “yet”:
Encourage a growth mindset by reframing limitations as opportunities for growth and development. Emphasize the power of persistence and resilience, reminding individuals that their potential is not fixed but malleable. Instead of focusing on what has not been achieved, encourage the use of the word “yet” to signify ongoing progress and future possibilities. For example, rather than saying, “I can’t communicate with Harvard graduates,” encourage reframing it as, “I can’t communicate with Harvard graduates yet.” This simple shift in language transforms perceived barriers into temporary setbacks, instilling a sense of optimism and determination to continue striving towards success.
By implementing these strategies, we can collectively work towards fostering a culture of confidence, resilience, and empowerment, ultimately combating the pervasive issue of low self-esteem.
