Balance is bullshit
Did you know that according to Gallup, only 47% of people polled say they are satisfied with their personal lives? It’s a staggering statistic that highlights the widespread discontent many of us experience in our personal relationships and endeavors
Why is Balance is Bullshit?
Because achieving success in your personal life demands just as much effort as it does in your professional endeavors. Not only that, but the kind of work required is eerily similar.
Life is all about motion — physical and mental. I crafted “The Retail Leaders Roadmap” not only to aid retailers but also employees and leaders across all industries in advancing their careers and providing better for their families.
The pillars and practices outlined for writing and rewriting your career outcomes are equally applicable when navigating your personal relationships. After all, your personal life often mirrors the quality of your relationships.You want to know why? Because it takes as much work to succeed in your personal life as it does in your professional life. It not only takes as much work, it requires earily similiar work.
Your Character is still the foundation of your personal life
Are you working hard to ensure your relationship with your significant other, parent, sibling, child is what it ought to be?
Are you open to learning and flexing your approach based on how things are going or are you stubborn and needing things to be as they are?
Are you being the example your family members and friends are proud of?
Are you owning your shit when things don’t go the way they should if it was your doing?
Are you doing the things necessary to positively influence the relationships in your life even if you don’t like doing them?
If any of these aspects are lacking, it’s highly probable that you’re encountering challenges within your relationships, at the very least. It ultimately boils down to the decision of embracing these five practices with those you cherish the most to foster successful personal relationships. Your willingness to engage in this journey is truly appreciated by those you care about!
Your Connections are still the way to enhance your personal life
Do you make the people around you better?
Do you communicate just to get shit off your chest or do you communicate the way the receiver prefers to hear you?
Do you respect both your own identity and others’ fundamental traits?
Do you meet others 51% of the way, minimum?
If the answer is “NO” to any of these aspects as well, it’s highly probable that despite having numerous solid relationships, something crucial may still be missing. Your awareness and willingness to address these areas are sincerely appreciated by those you care about, as they see the efforts you’re putting in to nurture these relationships.
Plans Aren’t Exclusive to Work:
Do you know where you want the relationship to be in 3 to 5 years?
Do you know where you want your personal life to be in 3 to 5 years?
Are you financially equipped to realize your personal and relationship goals?
If the answer is “NO” to any of these aspects, you’ll likely find yourself in a place determined by chance. It might be positive, but it’s equally likely not to be. Without a clear understanding of what you want from your relationships and your personal life, you’re leaving things to chance.
By defining your desires, you can work backward from them, setting yourself on the right path to meet your expectations. Your positive approach in clarifying your aspirations will be deeply appreciated by the relationships you hold dear, as they witness your commitment to growing them.
Believing in the Myth of Balance:
Thinking balance exists is akin to believing the world is flat — it’s simply not true. Clinging to the notion of balance only leads to frustration and disappointment.
Instead, focus on perpetual movement toward your desired destination. Whether at work or leisure, in the office or at home, success in both realms requires consistent effort.
Love shouldn’t feel like a chore — whether for your work or your loved ones. Embrace the exhilaration of putting in the work, rejecting the myth of balance, and steering your life towards fulfillment.
